~*~Regret ?~*~ Say it now instead..~*~*~*

We often wait till its too late . Too often we fail to recognize the person who actually cares for us. Too often we  to fail to tell a person how much they mean to us. Too often we take people for granted and realize only after they’ve left that how much we’ve lost.Too often we avoid a person so much that they build walls around them to prevent us from entering their world again. Too often we realize…But its too late..
Regret – is a terrible feeling. The feeling of “What might have been” – EVEN WORSE.
People are mortal , memories aren’t. Why not create eternal memories and relation with the mortal being who is ready to sacrifice everything for your happiness ? Why not make the best of the opportunity you have NOW to make a person realize what he/she means to you ? Why not accept “I was wrong” and apologize rather than wait for the  other person to take the first step ?
There are people in your life with whom you’ve shared innumerable memorable laughters , smiles and tears. But have you stopped and THANKED them  for everything they did for you ? Or the way they made you feel ? Every one deserves to know what you think of them. Everyone loves knowing how much they mean to a certain person. Take out a moment from your busy life to tell others what they mean to you. I personally call it “Thank you messages”. Everytime someone makes me feel good or happy I text the person how happy his/her gesture made me feel. Or how much I treasured the moment we shared. No its not GAY (for all the peeves reading this post) , neither is it extra display of affection. I am just making sure that tomorrow if something happens to me – or the other person , I don’t have a regret that I died without telling a person how they made me feel or how much they mean to me.And I’ll spare the person the anticipation of what they meant to me . Life is short , don’t waste your life holding back and waiting for an opportune moment to tell your friends / family or lover – how much they mean to you. You needn’t do it too often , but make sure you do it when they’re near,. Don’t wait till its too late and have words chiseled on the grave stones.Say it now instead. Do it now instead.They might not even lend ears to your thoughtfulness once its too late. You’ll shout – you’ll cry. And then you’ll realize what you’ve lost but it will be too late to go back and take the chance which you waited forever to take. And as it is , time turners are almost impossible to find.

~~**For the less loved ~~**- "The Lonely"~~**~~

They seem to be extremely happy.Ever smiling. They laugh at the lamest jokes.They smile everytime someone looks at them. They hide behind a tough, arrogant and grumpy visage, with insolent eyes and insulting tongue, appearing as if they wont talk to anyone.But once you really look into their eyes u'll see how well they are hiding their pain.How wonderfully they are again smiling through it.How beautifully they are still keeping the promise made to someone "stay happy". They are the one's who are always there when u need them.But why do you end up saying "you wont understand my pain?" They are the shoulder to cry upon. Why do you end up leaving them when they need you the most ? They hide their disappointment behind their smile and veil their pain with silence. Why do you end up hurting them , disappointing them again and again ? Their face is covered with the wrinkeles of pain and the tears they have cried , while lying to themselves in desperate desperate hope - that come morning , everything will be fine."  the next day, despite the pain they manage to smile,.Why do you end up asking "You dont have big fat problems like I DO"  "I dont . I am absolutely perfect" they reply.

  "Why will you understand my pain ?
Why will you wonder why i am not the same ?
Why will you cry yourself to sleep ?
Why will you sink in so deep ?
Why will you know
Why will you weep all night ?
Nothings wrong with your sight.
Why will the pain feel like stabbing knife
 Your body isnt covered in hives.
Why will it hurt to breath or move ?
 Hypothetical. So i cant prove.
  I want to scream out loud.
But instead i smile.
Cuz the sound drowns in the crowd.
Why will you lay in bed
Do nothing all day. I smile through the pain , but only in vain.
Why will you understand ?
For you all that matters is your "Pain"

.They need to be cared for - once , they need to be assured -that u r and will b there for them.They need to be shown that they too deserve love. They might push you away initially , scared of getting hurt again. but they need you to try once.,just once. They need to be understood. - just once. !

Be~~**Yourself**~~Everyone else is ~~Taken**

One often takes desperate measures to FIT IN. In order to please others , one often forgets the importance of being oneself. I am not ashamed to say , that at a point of time i had given in to this. I had forgotten the importance of being oneself.This post is dedicated to that wonderful friend who taught me the importance of being myself. There are not many people whom i am thankful to in my life . But this friend is one of those rare people I’ll be thankful to “always”. Who taught me some important lessons which i will carry with me in all walks of life.

First , sit back and think. Why do you need to fit in ? Why do you need to worry about what others will think of you ? Why do you need to do what others do ? Why do you need to pay attention to what others talk about you ? Rumors ? show them your middle finger  !! Why let something which is not true worry you so much ? BE at EASE. Start realizing your selfworth before letting someone tell you that you are a square peg in a round hole.You dont need to change into someone who you are not for the sake of someone who is not close to you. World is ruthless , but that in no way means you will lead your life pleasing others. However at the same time it means that you should make sure you have not adopted such an attitude that you cant see eye to eye with your colleagues and friends. That can lead to several other issues altogether.

Pamper yourself , dont give in to what others say . Just for the sake of sounding cool , DONT EVER EVER give in to peer pressure. I have come across many people who smoke and drink for the sake of socializing. They find it to be a means of connecting well with their peers. To hell with such socializing which comes at the cost of your health , which comes at the cost of damaged liver and barbequed lungs. On the other hand i see many girls giving in to wearing short clothes as soon as they shifting to a big city , even though they are highly uncomfortable in their attire. But who cares till people come and compliment you for your good look?

We are living in a society , we are surrounded by people who can go to any extent for the sake of having a big group of friends and connecting with them. If you are one such person , or even if you are not. I would just say one word “STOP” before it gets too late. Too often we go a long way pleasing someone , then we are finally tired and then we give up trying to please people and think they would have actually started liking you after all that you did.But that isn’t what happens.As soon as  you start being yourself , (friends who are not actually your friends) they leave you and start searching for someone who would do everything to please them. And you are left there wondering where you went wrong.All the effort you put in , all the precious time you wasted – everything goes in vain.All for them who dont love the real YOU.

Start being yourself , stop feeling unwanted , dont do what others do – make your own way. And above all learn to say NO. Set your priorities in life. Hang out with them , who know the real YOU.Who wont ask you to change in a bad way  just for the sake of fitting in.
Remember – In the end , all that matters is whether you’ve been true  to yourself. Whether you’ve done what is right. Whether you’ve realised those important people in your life , whose presence actually matter.
I guess i have. And i owe this all to that wonderful friend.I have no hint of how that friend is keeping , if i am remembered at all.But this is just a note to remind that awesome person – that i owe this important lesson of my life only to him. If you are reading this , i hope you feel good to know what impact your words had on me.I wish for you every happiness and hope , not because you gave me those things , but because you taught me how to find them in myself.I was changed. I was never the same again.